The Style Shrine

You are single parent and after several years of not dating, you give online dating sites like Parship a chance. You’ve even talked with people whose profile information you liked. However, when people learn you have children, you never hear from them again. Do you omit the information and don’t tell them until you have a solid dating relationship?

The answer to that is always an emphatic no. Never lie on your profile, because the truth will always come out. Don’t <i>not</i> tell them. Anyone who is discouraged by it isn’t a potential mate for you. If you lie even by omission, not only will you have to deal with being left behind when children aren’t in the other person’s dating goal, you have to deal with having lied. The latter is entirely your fault.

Don’t expect the other person to feel comfortable on a first date that includes your children, though. Give him or her time to get to know you first. Then if that progresses well, then introduce the children. Both the kids and the date deserve your honesty.

Be patient in sorting through all those that may not be ready for an instant family. It takes a special person to become a step-parent, and not many are willing to do that. Those that don’t mind or even like the fact that you have children are worth the wait.

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